The Exasperation of Trump Regrets and Gullibility

All good people in this nation have been forced to try to find a way to deal with what is happening, in an effort to maintain their own grasp on sanity in the midst of our nation’s insanity. I often look at the Trump Regrets Twitter page these days to see how many people are finally waking up. The first time I went to that page, I expected to see people upset because theirs was a protest vote, and they never truly expected him to win. That was not the case; the people that are finally waking up have me shaking my head in disbelief.

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I am appalled and shocked by how many people are surprised by what Trump is doing. They are expressing disgust and anger over his lies. They are upset that he is trying to repeal the ACA and they will lose their healthcare. They are surprised and disappointed by how childish he is acting, and how disrespectful he is toward women. They express their disapproval of the Executive Orders he has signed that have a detrimental effect on wildlife and the environment. They are angry by how little he cares about the animals, elderly, sick, and working class. I could go on and on.

The reason this has me feeling exasperated is because it was all predictable, and they were warned. He is exactly the same man now, as he has always been. He showed them who he really was during the campaign, and even told them this is what he was going to do. So, what did they expect from him? He has spent his entire life lying and cheating. If he hadn’t been born rich, he would have been lucky to get a janitorial job somewhere. Most likely, he would have been homeless or living off the system because of a mental disability.

Trumpians were warned about all of this, so I have a hard time feeling sympathy. They hurt the entire country by casting their vote for a childish bully with a grudge. He has always treated women with disgusting disrespect, and viewed them as property. He has never possessed the slightest shred of family values or loyalty. He cheats businesses and refuses to pay his bills. There is nothing to be admired or respected when it comes to that despicable “man”, so in actuality, they got exactly what they wanted when they cast their vote.

Every single time I read the sentence “this isn’t what I voted for”, I want to reach through my computer screen and shake that person. He hasn’t changed one iota from then to now, so they are deluding themselves if they think this is not what they voted for. They got conned by promises of grandeur, much like the Germans were during Hitler’s rise to power. He told them exactly what they wanted to hear, and they bought it like the perfect little gullible fools that he wanted them to be. This is par for the course with him. He has spent his entire life as a spoiled little rich boy who only cares about himself. I do feel empathy and compassion for the people gullible enough to believe that he wouldn’t touch their Medicare/Medicaid, would raise taxes on the wealthy and lower taxes on the poor, etc. I don’t feel too much sympathy for the people chanting “Build that Wall” while still believing that Mexico is going to pay for that monument to hate and anti-American attitudes. That type of ignorance takes gullibility to a whole new level.

Now, of course, many of his die-hard supporters are the equally corrupt politicians, white supremacists, neo-Nazis, ultra-wealthy, and corporations that have been saddled by that pesky red tape intended to protect people while cutting into their profits. Those people will continue to support him no matter how evil his agenda may be, or how much damage is done to the nation, because it is lucrative for them in some form. You also have the single cause supporters: the pro-birth group who pretends to be pro-life, the gun nuts, and the people who erroneously think the “evil immigrants” are stealing their jobs.

stupid Trump supportersThe only thing more exasperating, are the few Trumpians who are still deep without the throes of Trump-hysteria. They have themselves convinced that he is a Christian man, and doing “God’s work”. They brag about all of the amazing things he is accomplishing, and end every grammatically incorrect and atrociously spelled sentence with “#MAGA”. Their spewings are usually filled with ignorance and hate. They are incapable of seeing the truth, and believe all media is fake news, unless it praises him. Trumpians follow Fox like a legion of brainwashed minions, and believe it is the holy grail of information, while rebuking facts and reality. They are the dangerous followers of a dictator, blissfully unaware of how un-American they are. You will not find any of those people on Trump Regrets, because they see him as their god.

Trumpians will die in their denial of truth, long after Trump is a sour memory that all true Americans will desperately try to forget. In the meantime, I go forward, hoping to finally read the headline we all crave “Trump Impeached” or better yet “Trump in prison”. I read the regrets feed for a laugh, and occasional moment of hope.

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America Has Fallen

The past few days have been rather hard on me, as a formerly very proud American. For starters, if someone had told me last year that I would no longer be proud of my nation, I would call them a flat-out liar. I was raised in a military family, and knew how to properly fold a flag, say the Pledge of Allegiance, and sing the National Anthem before I had started school. I was taught true Patriotism, and to be proud of this country. I was led to believe that we were the greatest country on Earth, so it wasn’t easy to type the word “formerly” in the first sentence, but this past week has revealed to me what a profound and undeniable truth that is.

Anyone who knows me, or has read any of my posts, knows that I am against Trump and everything he stands for. So, his election was hard on me because of what it meant for this nation; but I tried to suppress the disappointment in some of my fellow countrymen. I had honestly believed we were better than to elect someone like him. Facing the truth, I know that if this nation were what I had always believed it was, then a buffoon like him would never have gotten a single vote. I lost faith in a lot of people, and look at many of them differently now. I am appalled by the darkness he has unleashed.  I have seen and heard things that were once unacceptable in a civilized society, but have now become readily allowed in Trump’s America.America

In truth, I have slowly begun to accept the shroud that is smothering all humanity out of this nation. It was placed there by a very dark man and the people who adore him. So, as sad as it is to admit, the racism, hate, violence, selfishness, etc. that defines Trump’s America is nothing new to me. You might be wondering what has happened this past week that caused the deep sorrow I am feeling? It started while I was watching Sarah Huckabee in her first press conference this week, and was exacerbated by the proceeding one. I watched her lie without hesitation, with a smirk on her face, and brush Trump’s juvenile and unacceptable behavior under the table as if it were nothing. She made excuses for his childishness, and bully behavior, as if it were normal. She saw no problem, and lashed out at the media uttering the same phrase he has a thousand times: “Fake News”. She then went on to call the Russian investigation a hoax.

If you look at Huckabee’s behavior, it is a form of manipulation. She is using the same psychological ploy that Trump has used a million times: repeat a lie often enough and people will start to believe it. It is basic brainwashing, that the intelligent people can easily see through. However, I am troubled because it is standard operating procedure for the current administration. To work on Trump’s team, one must be capable of lying without hesitation, while being completely devoid of any and all morality and integrity. Ethics are not allowed in his White House. And that is what troubles me the most. The White House was once a place to look up to. It held a special meaning, but now it is just a carnival. There used to be integrity and dignity in the White House, and now it is simply a meeting place for the most vile and corrupt people in the US.

I was already deeply troubled by how far our government has fallen, when I saw something even darker, yet more indicative of where we are as a nation. The final nail in the coffin was the recruiting video put out by our very own terrorist organization, the NRA. This video, for those who have not seen it, was akin to an ISIS recruitment video, and flat out repulsive. I would like to say it was as un-American as it could possibly be, but sadly it was symbolic of what America has become.

The video was easily geared toward all gun nuts (yes there is a vast difference between gun nuts and responsible gun owners), white supremacists, and Trumpians. It was a declaration of war against all Liberals and Democrats. In the video, the demented moderator states:

“They use their media to assassinate real news. They use their schools to teach children that their president is another Hitler. They use their movie stars and singers and comedy shows and award shows to repeat their narrative over and over again. And then they use their ex-president to endorse ‘the resistance.’

“All to make them march. Make them protest. Make them scream ‘racism’ and ‘sexism’ and ‘xenophobia’ and ‘homophobia.’ To smash windows, burn cars, shut down interstates and airports, bully and terrorize the law-abiding – until the only option left is for the police to do their jobs and stop the madness.

“And when that happens, they’ll use it as an excuse for their outrage. The only way we stop this, the only way we save our country and our freedom, is to fight this violence of lies with the clenched fist of truth.

“I’m the National Rifle Association of America. And I’m freedom’s safest place.”

I was appalled when I watched this video, and found it hard to believe that even a vile organization like the highly corrupt NRA was capable of this level of atrociousness. It is the type of propaganda and call to action you would typically see in an ISIS recruitment video. It was scary, especially when facing the reality that the lunatics will see it as a call to action. And anyone who is in the resistance is in danger. Every true American should be scared, and angry.

All of this boiled over for me today, and forced me to face a reality I have been avoiding for weeks now. I can no longer be proud to be an American. I am embarrassed on a daily basis by our toddler in the White House, and appalled by the people who are too cowardly to call him out on it. I am ashamed of the man I refuse to call president. I am furious about the people who excuse his behavior while he continuously destroys our reputation with the rest of the world. I am mortified by the level of corruption that is flagrantly occurring in our government. I am saddened by the lack of humanity, empathy and integrity. I am outraged by the education system that has failed badly enough to make someone like Donald Trump even possible, and angry about the archaic system that managed to elect him. I am horrified by the ignorance of his dutiful supporters, and their refusal to see the truth. I am furious about the reality that we are no longer a democracy. I am dismayed as I watch this nation become a fascist dictatorship, blatantly ignoring the warnings of history. But mostly, I am heartbroken by the darkness that has engulfed America. I am exasperated by the backwards thinking that exists in this country. I am ashamed of the fact that guns are more important than life for so many people. I am angry about the wild west mentality, and the vehement refusal to move forward with the rest of the world. I am ashamed to be an American in Trump’s dark America.

FallenWe are no longer the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave. America has become the land of hate and violence, and the home of the corrupt and dishonest. America has officially fallen because of the hate that elected a man like Trump. America has ceased to be America because of a corrupt system that is void of all integrity, morality and humanity. If we look at what this nation was originally based upon, and why it was founded, we must face one cold dark reality. America no longer exists. The empire has fallen, and lay in ruins at the feet of Trump and his supporters.

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I Have Returned

It has been a while since I have posted anything, because life sometimes takes hold and time becomes elusive. I have been working on my novel again, and often find myself writing it in my head while toiling around the house, or at work. It feels good to watch the story take shape and the characters come to life, while serving as a perfect distraction to the dark state of affairs in this nation.

I try to not dwell too hard on what is happening, even though it is hard at times. I see so much happening and find myself frequently torn between outrage and dismay. But I move forward and try to do the best I can in the given situation. I have lost a few “friends”, and had many restless nights. I see things differently than I use to, with my rose-colored glasses shattered at my feet. Yet, I refuse to allow the darkness to tarnish me. I still smile, and embrace my empathy and compassion as the amazing gifts they are. I refuse to join the factions who cling to arrogant selfishness within a hate-filled agenda.

I see the beauty, and even the optimistic side within the current disaster. I am certain I will delve into that within my next few entries in this blog. I have not lost myself, or at least not the part of me that will always care about people and reach out a helping hand. I have found my voice and no longer sit silently to keep the peace.

I do find myself frequently amused by the Trump supporters who are finally waking up from their stupor, and realizing they were conned. I shake my head at their foolishness because the very things they are upset about are what he promised he would do on the campaign trail. Everyone, including the toddler himself, warned them.

I was horrified when he attempted to pull out of the Paris Climate Agreement, hoping he had bluffed on that one promise. It was a stupid and selfish move, that is also futile. Apparently, he didn’t bother to read it, or he would know it isn’t that easy. He will be long gone (hopefully in prison) by the time notice can even be given of the intention to back out of the agreement. But nonetheless, he must be so proud to have joined the ranks of Nicaragua and Syria as we move backwards in terms of progress. Instead of being an advanced nation, Trump in all of his demented anti-wisdom has chosen the path of anti-progress. I can only shake my head at the stupidity of that man. However, all is not lost! Many of our states and cities join the ranks of the advanced nations in the world with a pledge to move onward with our progress toward a clean future. Progress cannot be changed, no matter how hard ignorance tries to impede it.

With everything that has been going on in my life as of late, one thing always makes me smile. When I get too agitated thinking about what is going on, I take a time out and play with my dog. He reminds me to focus on the simple things in life. I have had some deeply introspective conversations with him. He is a great listener, and never repeats any of my secrets or thoughts. And somehow, he knows, that when I am getting too agitated, a head on my lap makes all the problems in the world vanish for a moment.

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Two Choices: Resistance or Accomplice by Silent Acquiescence

Why can’t I just let it go? I know I am not alone in my resistance to simply accept status quo, and set my sights on getting through the next 4 years. But knowing that I am not alone in my dismay, repulsion, and shock does not help me feel better about what is happening in this nation. I think it is the fact that it has forever altered the way I see some people. People that I once had a lot of respect for, that I saw as genuinely good people, have shown a face to me that I do not recognize. They have taken away the illusion that I clung to for years, and revealed the true darkness of this place I call home.

In many ways, I am still in shock, and angry, that someone like him could have become president of the country I once loved without question. He was blatantly following Hitler’s blueprint, yet his supporters still cheered at his vitriol. It was impossible to miss the signs that he was taking a very dark path, yet he didn’t lose a single supporter. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing and hearing sometimes, but the biggest shock was that he still had people supporting him and cheering at his rallies. I try to make myself feel better about his electoral win by facing the reality that it could not have happened with Russian interference. But that doesn’t help assuage the deep disappointment I feel toward many of my fellow citizens, who still cling desperately to their illusion that he alone can make America great again.

Whys can’t I just let it go, and accept the current state of affairs? This isn’t about winning and losing, it is about morality, ethics, and humanity on a deeply intrinsic level. It is about the fact that a man bragged about getting away with sexual assault, and his supporters didn’t care. It is about a man mocking a disabled reporter, and his supporters didn’t care. It is about a man being openly racist, bigoted, xenophobic, and misogynistic, and people not caring. It is about a man who is openly and blatantly dishonest, and his supporters not caring. It is about a man who can be presented with hardcore evidence of something he did or said, but his supporters believe him when he denies it. It is about a man that spoke about wanting to bring back waterboarding and other torture, and was met with cheers and jubilation. It is about a man that stated the families and children of terrorists should be killed, and his supporters loved him even more. It is about the core of humanity and compassion being lost in a society that has embraced the deepest depths of darkness.

I will never understand why one of these things wasn’t the end of it, and that might be what troubles me the most. I would like to believe that this nation is an evolved nation, and we have moved out of the dark ages when it comes to basic humanity; we are capable of embracing equality, and letting people live their lives. Sadly, that is not the case. America is a divided nation that has chosen to be defined by hate and arrogance. This is a moral issue, and America has fallen.

The day of the Inauguration, I felt a sense of foreboding and doom. I was ready to pack up and leave this nation, without even a backward glance. But then something amazing happened, and my hope was renewed. The show of solidarity that occurred the day after Trump’s inauguration was unlike anything I have ever seen. I never thought I would see countries around the globe uniting in solidarity against the American president, and it gave me hope. I had felt so disillusioned and fatalistic after the election, but seeing everyone standing together, willing to fight against the ensuing darkness, made me realize that there is hope after all. The heart of the human race is not dead.

So, it is for that reason if nothing else that I cannot simply let it go and accept the fate of this nation. America will resist, and the good people of this nation will once again prove what we are capable of. I have hope that the resistance will be strong, and we will rise again stronger than ever. Perhaps, Trump truly can make America great again by uniting us in a common cause as we all come together to fight the darkness that is threatening to destroy this nation.

To simply accept status quo, is to become a willing accomplice through silent acquiescence. That happened once in Germany during the Nazi era. I have to believe we have learned enough from history, that the good people in this nation will refuse to let the darkest moment in history repeat itself in America.

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The Rise of Fascism in America

I can’t count the number of times I have seen Trump compared to Hitler, both in his mannerisms and methodology, but it is often met with the statement “That can’t happen here. We’re a democracy”. I usually have to bite my tongue to keep from telling these people to pick up a history book, and research the origins and rise of fascism in the early 20th century. None of the fascist leaders that managed to seize power, did so by running on a fascist dictator ticket. They maneuvered themselves into the role with the skills of a consummate con-artist, and it was only after they had seized power did the signs of a dictator begin to emerge.

After World War I much of the world was in turmoil, especially the European sector. Economic and cultural crises plagues Europe, and left the people desperate for a new way of life. It was within the tumultuous aftermath of the war that a vacuum was created, both economically and socially, giving a new faction the prevalent factors necessary for the rise of a new political party. This new system, fascism, evolved as a protest against democracy, socialism, and communist ideology. Once it fully emerged, it proved that it was truly a force to be reckoned with.

While the economic and cultural turmoil that ravaged Europe after the war set the stage for the rise of fascism, it was actually the leaders who stepped forward to seize power that were the true driving force behind this cultic phenomenon. Fascism prevailed in countries and areas where the old system no longer seemed to work, and the people had become disenfranchised. They were disillusioned and forgotten by their deep seeded democracy, and feelings of nationalism were in overdrive.

benito_mussolini_cropMussolini was the originator of the totalitarian system that became known as fascism. He used propaganda to reach the people, and tactics that were focused on propagating feelings of distrust and disillusionment with the current organization. He knew that in order to maintain the power he desired, he must have the people united and fully behind him, either through fear or passion. The state, rather than the individual, is the focus of fascism. Mussolini, as did all other fascists after him, appealed to the working and middle classes, and that demographic became his greatest supporters.

The most widely known fascist leader followed Mussolini’s lead,hitler and showed the world the true darkness that fascism can bring. Hitler became the fascist dictator for Germany in the 1930s. Even though his goals were much darker than Mussolini’s, he proved he was a truly charismatic leader who could easily seduce an entire populace. His greatest power lay in the fact that he could captivate an entire crowd with his speaking ability, and ignite a nationalistic flame that roared to life from a dying ember. He was so charismatic, that he even managed to get the women to adore him even as he took away their personal freedoms and liberty.

There have been other less notable fascists rising to power since the demise of Hitler’s Nazi regime, but none of them made the same headlines as Hitler and Mussolini, until now. Trump is using every page from the fascist’s handbook, and doing it shamelessly. He is using the same methodologies, the same rhetoric, and appealing to the same demographic. This is most certainly a fascist uprising in America.

donald_trump_official_portraitTrump used American pride and the concept of patriotism to seize power. He doesn’t possess Hitler’s oratory skills, and does not possess either man’s intellect. But he does know how to inspire and impassion the disillusioned, and angry people. He focused on, and over-exaggerated the threat to this nation from other cultures. He has painted Muslims and Mexicans with the same dark imagery that Hitler used to define the Jews and Gyspies. As does every fascist leader before him, he has convinced his followers that America is a nation in distress and he alone has the power to save them. He focuses on the violence in the streets, and works people into a frenzy of fear.

Fascism promises dreams of grandeur and a return to greatness for the nation. The first step for the rise of every fascist leader is to gain the faith of his people, while simultaneously strengthening their distrust of the current government. A fascist dictator adds fuel to the feelings of nationalistic anger that are usually burning, turning the anger into a massive inferno, thereby allowing a dictator to seize the power they crave. This nationalistic fervor, and focus on ultimate power and superiority are the icons of the fascist ideology.hitler2

When you analyze these three men, their methods are all the same, they merely differ in their motives. Mussolini created the blueprint, and all who came after him have followed it. Mussolini wanted power and self-advancement, Hitler wanted to create a superior race of people, Trump has merged the two goals into one ultra-dark picture. He wants the power, fame and self-advancement as did Mussolini, but he also wants to advance the Aryan nation as did Hitler. The other motives for Trump’s rise revolve around his finances and business matters, as well as his extreme narcissistic personality. Regardless of their personal motives, all of these men knew how to tell people what they want to hear, and how to enflame their nationalistic zeal. By strengthening the bitterness which engulfed their nations, and making promises of a better and nationally superior future, they won over the masses.

Fascist dictators share a common trait, they are narcissists to their core, but they are also skilled manipulators. They make people feel alive again, and full of hope and enthusiasm; even though their promises are destined to be revealed as an illusion created by a consummate con artist. They know how to take advantage of circumstances, and promise the people what they want to hear. They manipulate, excite, enrage, and conquer their own people through the power of their own ingenuity and charisma. They bring a darkness, that carries the threat of ultimate destruction and potential downfall. The aftermath of a nation seized by fascism is always a bleak and tragic reality.holocaust-gas-chamber-victims

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An Undeniable Historical Déjà vu

I was watching the documentary “Third Reich: The Rise and Fall” this past weekend, and couldn’t help but notice the striking similarities between the rise of Hitler and the current state of America. You easily could have replaced “Hitler” with “Trump” and “Germany” with “America”. The stories are nearly identical. In some ways, it didn’t shock me because I have been comparing him to Hitler since he started revealing his true character. What shocked me was just how far the parallels between the two went. We are truly experiencing a historical déjà vu.

I have a passion for history, and even did a paper on the rise of fascism in college. Hitler has always intrigued me because I couldn’t wrap my head around how one man could so easily convince an entire nation to follow his dark ideology. Then I started witnessing it first hand during Trump’s rise to the presidency.

Now I am watching him surround himself by the same type of corrupt and evil men that Hitler chose as leaders of the Nazi party. I was amused at first, because everyone chanted “drain the swamp” during the campaign, and I couldn’t help but wonder how gullible people could be. At that time, I didn’t expect him to have a chance of winning, but I also wasn’t prepared for Putin to deliver the American throne to Trump either. Trump cheated to win, much like Hitler.

The whole thing both appalls and scares me as I watch an American horror story unfold before my eyes. We are truly in the throes of a time of great darkness in this country. The only thing I can hope for, is that the majority of Americans have learned from history and we will stage a revolution before our country finds itself the target of World War 3.

I think the part that troubles me the most is that I now see many people I once respected in a new light. It is hard to go back to the days of innocence where I considered them genuinely good people. They have revealed their racism, bigotry and misogyny. They have revealed their ignorance, hate and hypocrisy. They have revealed the darkness of their soul, and it took me a while to accept that. Some of them are simply disillusioned and angry. Those are his followers that I have sympathy for, because they will feel betrayed when they realize it was all a con. They were played, and became unwitting pawns in a very dark game. Many of them will suffer like never before. The country will turn against them when the darkness envelopes us all, and the world will point the finger of contempt. Trump’s Deplorables will have the same dark stigma as Hitler’s Nazis.

The worst part, is that history showed us what happens when you let a man like Trump have power. In the documentary, a few Germans were interviewed, and they spoke of how the world hated them. How the entire world saw them as evil monsters. The German people were promised a better life, they were going to go back to the days when Germany was great. Sound familiar? They were suffering, and Hitler offered them hope during a time of despair. They believed him, only to learn it was all a lie. He used their pain to rise to power. This was the exact same ploy that Trump used. Hitler provided the blueprint, and Trump gleefully followed it. But we are not as innocent and naïve as Germany, because we have seen this story before. For that reason, history will not be as forgiving with us, as it was with them.

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Social Media Induced Narcissism

As the popularity of social media increases exponentially, so does the self-focused society of narcissists it seems to be producing.  People post what they are having for breakfast, lunch and dinner as it they truly believe their audience is eagerly awaiting that information.  Honestly, do you really care if a person you know on Facebook, but may never actually meet in person, just had a Caramel Latte from Starbucks before getting a pedicure?

Posting on social media makes people feel important, like a movie star or royalty. Suddenly, they believe everyone wants to know what they are having for dinner or where they went for lunch again today. I don’t know how many times I have read posts about what people are cooking for dinner. Unless it is a special occasion or your name is Gordon Ramsey, most people probably don’t care what you are cooking right now. These same people usually tend to post what they are doing every minute of the day, and a few even post their sex lives complete with a rundown of their partner’s performance in that area.

When it comes to posting on social media, you have two extremes: people who overshare and people who never share. Most people fall into the middle, where they share things they believe are relevant, funny anecdotes, well-wishes and holiday greetings, occasional rants, etc. However, when it comes to the people who overshare, they truly share every moment of their lives. They seem to live for their status updates and tweets.  In many cases, it is because they are actually insecure, so convincing themselves that everyone is anxious to know what they are doing at every second makes them feel important.

I think the aspect of this epidemic of vanity that is most perplexing, and somewhat amusing, is the romantic and personal dialogue. Now, I am not referring to the people who post I love you, happy birthday, get well soon, etc. to people who are hundreds of miles away. I am talking about the people who post sweet comments to people who are not even on Facebook, knowing they will never see it anyway. Or…and this is the one that really makes me shake my head, the people who post sweet love talk statements of devotion to their significant other or spouse, rather than simply looking across the room and saying it directly. I am not talking about the sweet memes, cute images, special occasion messages, or rare moment of mushiness that people post to their loved one’s wall. We have all done that. I am talking about the love letter type of dialogue, and even the “goodnight sweetheart” that people post to someone in the same house as them.

Seriously, what is the purpose of pouring out your undying love on your status, rather than looking into their eyes and saying it to them directly. I know a few people that are always posting love notes on social media, and their spouse is in the same room with them. Let’s face it, when people do this, they aren’t saying it for the recipient, they are saying it to get attention from the audience. What happened to looking into your lover’s eyes, and saying “I love you” directly? What happened to true intimacy in a relationship?

If a person is posting sweet love letter messages, or using the public aspect of social media (versus in person or private messaging) to tell the one they love how they feel, they are not doing it for the person they love. They are doing it for their own rapidly inflating ego. They want the attention and accolade from the crowd. They want the “likes” and praise. They want people to believe they have the greatest love story on earth, and they want everyone to wish they had the same type of relationship. They want women to look at their husbands and get upset because he never says amazing things like that to her. Sometimes they post it in the hopes that they ex will see it and get upset, which is a whole other can of worms. The real reason they post things like that on Facebook is to get attention and feed their own narcissism and insecurity. Sadly, they lack the happiness of true intimacy and don’t even realize it.

In truth, I would rather have someone who looks into my eyes and pulls me tight, before whispering those sweet words that I can hold in my heart. I don’t need the entire world to wish they had what I had, because I don’t need their approval. I don’t wish people Happy Birthday on Facebook when they don’t even have an account, I call them. I prefer having true intimacy in a relationship, and find it sad that the world is becoming so vain they are losing the ability to form real connections with people.

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